3 Things I Learned from Ugly Memes

  1. I have learned the value of consistent presence.
    His exemplified (but never stated) virtue is something like: “Show up. Everyday. With a horribly cheesy meme. That takes 12 seconds to send. It may be more meaningful than intermittent offerings of pithy wisdom or grand appreciation. Because it shows that you are there. And that matters more than most anything else.” I’m learning he may just be right.
  2. I have learned not to dismiss things that are ugly.
    My friend’s daily posts prove irrefutably that not everything worthwhile is stylistically relevant or visually beautiful. I am learning that these would not be better if they were better-designed, that part of their goodness is their garishness, and that honest really does beat perfect. And moreover, I have learned that I can learn a lot from people who don’t know that their memes are cheesy and that this unawareness does not make them less-than. Little by little, I am learning to release my need to be “cool.”
  3. I am learning that caring for me is the only way I can care for you.
    In specific, yesterday I was struck by the one example I’ll include here. “Self-care is how you take your power back.” I see this as a more direct statement of what former Navy SEAL Clint Bruce talks about as “relaxing” and “reloading.” I grew up believing self-care was a justification for laziness, selfishness, and weakness (oh, you too?). I am slowly learning that it is the exact opposite of those things, that it is the only pathway to impactful action, selfless generosity, and power for good.

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